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Published on Thursday December 13th, 2018 by Afrocks

Dear Black Woman, Take A Seat! A Poem About Self-Care And Self-Preservation

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Photo credit @William Stitt

Following a challenging few months at afrocks HQ, we have had a look at how we look after ourselves, not just in business, but in life – full stop. 
Over the next few weeks our Head Afro hair and Business, Simone will be sharing her thoughts on self care. Although aimed at stylists and entrepreneurs, the content of this 4 part series can apply to anyone.
Enjoy part 1.
From us to you


Dear Black Woman,

Take a seat, sit down
I beg you take a breath, adjust your crown
What is it, to have one minute?
To shift that weight on your shoulders
To empty that basket of burden and dash the guilt out with it!
Free yourself from drama
Release yourself from your role within it
Opt out, sink into a space
Sit still,
Chill.

Black Woman – your fears may be harder than your ears but
Listen and let this be clear
What I share will save you years,
Years on a life that is held so dear, so please
Take a seat, sit down.

 

No one knows mornings like you, boo.
Did you even manage to sleep through?
Or was your mind attacking you with the things you have to do?

 

No one knows mornings like you, boo.
Did you even manage to sleep through?
Or was your mind attacking you with the things you have to do?
Or clogged by other people’s pain that does not even involve you?
Now off to the cell masking as an office
To be told what to do
And true you don’t want to feed a stereotype
You can’t even be you!

Plus you are trying this entrepreneur ting
You’ve locked off the phone but your ears still ring
Phone and emails keep poppin’ off
Because you’re trying to better yourself.
Old friends are saying you ‘tink yu too nice’ and you’re ‘too nuff’
You feel rough,
And a bad hair day as a throw in
I won’t even get into those of you with children,
That’s a whole other poem.

 

 

Why do we do it to ourselves?
Because Grandma said so?
Because Mummy did so?
How you mean?
Didn’t your mother tell you that a real woman must cook and keep the house clean?
Well, sorry mama, those pans will have to soak;
If you are running on empty it’s no joke.

For you – hard working black woman
Are our only hope, we need you complete, fit and whole
So take a seat, sit down.

Soon you can reload your troubles and resume your role.
Bound by ‘lie’-deologies that are simply not true.
Stop revelling in these unrealistic expectations placed upon you.

Black Woman,
What is one minute, to be alone?
You are not a martyr, there is no gold star.
Take a seat, sit down
For once, ask yourself how YOU are.

Black Woman,
You are the epitome of keep calm and carry on
Check how far  you’re coming from
Yes, you are super
But superwoman you are not.

Isn’t it crazy that we perceive self love as lazy?
Time for self, seen as indulgence rather than a necessity.

Black Woman,
What is one minute, to be alone?
You are not a martyr, there is no gold star.
Take a seat, sit down
For once, ask yourself how YOU are.

Wishing you Love, Light & Respite,

Team Afrocks

If you want to find out what triggered this poem, read the next part of blog post from Simone I Can No Longer Style Hair But Don’t Let That Happen To You: Superwoman you are not!

 

Hello! My name is Simone, I am Head of Afro Hair & Business at Afrocks. I am a London-based self-taught natural hair stylist and braider. Available for booking across London on Afrocks.com
You can also follow me on Instgram Hairpassion UK
Want to say hello? catch me on simone@afrocks.com.

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  • Simone – I found this web page yesterday – right on time I’d say, that poem spoke to me, cos I’m so fatigued! I’m not a stylist or entrepreneur, I’m a person that’s juggling many balls right now, after that poem – I’m about to pursue a journey of self-care and preservation LOL. I definitely needed some words of wisdom, that poem used a tone that ‘kept it real’ and spoke in a language I instantly understood. So far, part 1 has provided deep insight and questions around the past, present and future on life, learnt behaviours, being a woman (whatever that is), making changes and so much more – I got some serious identification.

    All I can say right now is I can’t wait for part 2, thank you for sharing you and blessings!

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